Today I did not get admission into MComp from NUS. I feel so dejected and down heartened. I was so sure about it and still I did not make it. These are one of those moments of life when you think you deserve and still you dint get it. And it really feels bad.
I guess I just have to move on. Try and plan something else, again keeping in mind that it might or might not be successful.
May be that’s what life is all about.
“We dismiss genuine appreciation from a known quarter. And genuine feedback from a stranger ” — May be because we think that the person knows us and might be biased towards us, whereas for unknown strangers to shower praises or criticize: he has nothing to gain or loose hence it tends(not every time) to be more genuine.
I think more than person/quarter (loved ones or strangers) its more of how we feel about the authenticity of the feedback. I think it comes from experience.
A mother would always appreciate you no matter what, however it becomes so common for us, that even when she is genuinely appreciating you, you feel that you ignore her appreciation.
Eventually its your own experience that adds up to all of this. The moral is not to forget those events or scenarios where you were given feedback and analyze later which were the genuine ones 🙂
People are afraid of dying. Seriously you meet somebody with cancer or any other vulnerable disease and they way they act like they are dying every second.
But isn’t everybody just dying, I mean even a 1 year old child is nearing his death, isn’t it. Every second we live we are nearing death.
But as I was writing this piece, another thing comes up in my mind. Is there any fixed life that we have ?. I mean like is it written somewhere that XYZ person will live for 60 years. No. Then why fear for it. Its all in your mind. Even if you have a stupid disease you still can live a great life. No matter what, its just in your mind.
I am so bad at negotiation. Multiple times it has happened and every time I try and prepare myself and every time i give in too fast. Later on when I look at the deal I feel that I could have made a better deal.
However more than once I have realized that people have cheated or lied to me in the process and I have told them the truth which they used against me in the same negotiation.
‘Bridge of Spies’ teaches you, how you can do it without lying and with greatest of respect.
Today I was at the Terminal 3 airport to drop somebody, and i could actually see people crying.
What do people cry at the airport ?
It is just a temporary period when that person, will be away from you. I mean that person is not dying and you can visit whenever you want to.
Or is it because I lack the sentiments to understand this.
Most of the startup leaders think of
a) Raising funds
b) Selling it off
but why ?
I believe you should be able to run your business by generating profit as soon as possible, definitely it will take some time, may be 1, 2 or 3 years or even more….but 8 years is a very long time and if you are still trying to figure out how to make profit out of your business then it’s time to rethink your strategy.
Sometimes it’s essential that you have to raise funds to meet your needs, By needs I mean requirements or plans where you can clearly see that you have to invest or else you might just loose out on huge returns or the competition.
Ofcoz most of you will say yes.
I have read many blogs/columns speaking volumes about how important it is to maintain honesty everywhere, specially in the corporate world.
However I find it difficult to accept it, because here and there I see clear examples of people lying to you (professionally and they use this exact word to hide it), people treat your honesty to take advantage of you.
One recent example, One of my friend was negotiating for a Job and the interviewer asked him details regarding his existing job and my friend told him that there is a XYZ personal problem, due to which he was looking to move to this new company, however the same manager used the data provided to him to negotiate a lower salary, additionally lying (which he came to know later) to him, how the manager has restrictions and blah, blah.
Once this guy joined the organization he realized that he was negotiated to the lowest levels of the payroll (way below his experience, skillset in the company)
Will you consider this OK ?
Is this part of corporate negotiating skills ?
Should this person (job seeker) had lied in the first place and made up a good story ?
If you replied “NO” to the above questions, how do you justify Honesty in the corporate world.
Sometimes you are unsatisfied with your life, while many people in this world are dreaming of living your life.
A child on a farm sees a plane fly overhead and dreams of flying, but a Pilot on the plane sees the farmhouse and dreams of returning home.
That’s life, Enjoy yours. If wealth is the secret of happiness then the rich should be dancing on the street. But only poor kids do that.
If power ensures security, then officials should walk unguarded. But those who live simply, sleep soundly.
If beauty and fame bring ideal relationships, then celebrities should have best marriages.
Live Simply, walk humbly and love genuinely..
All good will come back to you.
–Adapted from a whatsapp mesaage ☺
Below are 10 hobbies that will help to make you smarter- all backed up by scientific studies and experiments:
1. Play a musical instrument.
Confucius said a long time ago, Music produces a kind of pleasure which human nature cannot do without. Music stimulates your brain, and this has been proven by research as well.
Music has the power to invoke complexemotions and psychological states. Various researchers have shown that both listening to music and playing a musical instrument increases memory capacity.
Playing a musical instrument also teaches you patience and perseverance for it takes time and effort to learn to play a musical instrument. It also sharpens your concentration.
2. Read voraciously.
Reading goes a long way towards increasing your intelligence level- this is further the caseif you read voraciously across many different topics, from fiction and biographies, to anthologies.
Reading reduces stress, helps you to experience multiple emotions, and teaches you a lot about many subjects. All these factors help you tofeel better about yourself;being at peacewith yourselfis one of the most important foundations for positive wellbeing.
Reading is very important for enhancing yourknowledge on a subject, preparing for all sorts of situations and being more productive in how you go about achieving your goals.
3. Meditate regularly.
The foremost benefit of meditation is to help you focus on yourself and to get you to know your true self. Being engrossed in meditation helps individuals transcend to ahigher state of being.
Meditation helps to reduce stress levels and gets rid of all sorts of worries. With a calm and composed state of mind obtained through meditation, you can learn, think and plan things in a much more effective way.
Regular meditation helps you to have full control over yourself. Being aware of distractions and effective methods of self-control are of the utmost significance when working to improve your intelligence.
4. Work out your brain.
Just as you need to work out regularly to keep your body fit, you also need to work out your brain to keep it in good shape.Regularly challenging the brain to do new things enhances its abilities and helps to keep you sharp.
You can work out your brain in plenty of ways such as through: sudoku, puzzles, board games, and riddles. All these activities help the brain to continue forming new connections. Through such activities you alsolearn to respond to situations in creative ways, develop the ability to see things from a lot of different perspectives and become significantly more productive.
5. Exercise often.
A healthy body helps to ensure that you have a healthy brain.After all, your brain is likeanother muscle in your body. Exercising regularly keeps your brain and body functioning as they are supposed to. It reduces tension and helps you to sleep better.
Doctors agree that better blood circulation to the brain means increased brain function. Various studies on mice and humanshave shown that cardiovascular exercise can create new brain cells,and thus improve overall brain performance.
6. Learn a new language.
Learning a new language may not always be an easy task but it definitely has numerous advantages-making you smarter, being one of them.
The process of learning a new language involves tasks such as analyzing grammatical structures and learning new words, which enhances yourintelligence and brain health.
It has also been proven through variousexperiments that people with high levels of verbal-linguistic intelligence are great atplanning, decision-making and problem-solving.
7. Write your feelings down.
There are tons of benefits that you can receive from writing, including increasingyour overall level of intelligence.
Writing improves your linguistic abilities,of course. But it also helps you to develop such skills as focus, creativity, imagination, and comprehension.
Writers are often considered as having very high levels of intelligence.You can write in different ways. You can write things with your hand or you can create your own blog. Whatever you do, you are giving words to the images in your mind; learning to express yourself clearly is a great way to boost your intelligence.
8. Travel to new places.
Travelling is not just a way to kill your boredom- theres lot more to it than that. Travelling can really boost your intelligence.
The physical and mental workouts involved withtravelling, rid your mind of stress. As you become stress-free, you are more able to focus on tasks, observations, and deepening your understanding of subjects.
Every new place you travel to offers new things to learn.You encounter diverse people, food, culture, lifestyle and society while travelling, which puts you in touch with ideas you might neverhave thought of previously.
9. Cook different kinds of meals.
Many of us feel thatcooking is a mere waste of time and its something we very much want to avoid.
But instead of whining, you should feel happy when you have the opportunity to cook. Regular cooks, particularly the ones who try out a variety of meals, have high levels of creativity. They are committed to quality, arent afraid to try things out and they pay great attention to details.
Whenever you cook something, you are learning to multitask, measure with precision and make quick decisions. With all of these skills youre acquiring, youre becoming smarter too.
10. Participate in sports actively.
Participating regularly in sports activities doesnt only exercise the muscles but also does the same for the brain. Playing sports regularly makes the brain more flexible and improves overall brain health.
Sports have added benefits too. Watching sports has been linked with increased brain function, and through exercisingyou work out your muscles. Involvement in sport also enhances responsiveness, coordination, capabilities, and confidence.
Top athletes are known for their special form of intelligence.It doesntmatter whether you play football, basketball or cricket. Consider being regularly involved in some form of sport to boost your brains performance.
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